I am feeling depressed and I struggle getting out of bed to go to a job I hate. I am finding that the tablets given to me by the doctor are not working the way they did and really want to stop feeling like this. Would seeing a life coach help?
Relish says: Life coaching is a very powerful process for helping people move forwards and improving themselves, however, it is probably not the best intervention for those who are experiencing deep seated emotional issues, of which depression can be one of the signs. However, by finding the right therapeutic intervention which can help with negative emotions such as NLP (neuro linguistic programming), it is possible to recognise what is causing the depression and to identify what changes will make a difference, particularly with work.
However, there are 2 key points to note here: 1) only a doctor can recommend that you give up on any medication prescribed and 2) you have to be in a position where you really want to make change.
Good luck!
Friday, 16 November 2007
Tuesday, 11 September 2007
Ishmail, London
I am 22 and have just left university after studying for Law for a year, once I realised that it wasn't what I wanted to do.
I want to do something else, and need to talk to someone about my job prospects, or may be a course in management - help! I need direction!
Relish says:
Firstly, well done for recognising that you wanted to do something different and then doing something about it!
There will be people at the university who can help you, see if you can get an appointment with them.
Alternatively, there are numerous Business and Life coaches who will be able to help you look at what you really want out of life.
I want to do something else, and need to talk to someone about my job prospects, or may be a course in management - help! I need direction!
Relish says:
Firstly, well done for recognising that you wanted to do something different and then doing something about it!
There will be people at the university who can help you, see if you can get an appointment with them.
Alternatively, there are numerous Business and Life coaches who will be able to help you look at what you really want out of life.
Monday, 3 September 2007
Shelley London
I have been in a sales role since 1989, and am currently selling advertising space.
I am 45 years old, and earn good money and have a great lifestyle and yet I no longer enjoy my job. I seem to spend my time moaning about it, which affects my home life; I want to change and yet I have financial commitments and a family to support. I would love to work part time in the sports industry and don't know what to do - I feel stuck, can you help me?
Relish says
This is a typical scenario we come across, people who have been doing a similar role for years, and feel trapped by their committments into believing they have no option. All that is required is some help to think through the options available to you and realise that changes can be made, they just may not happen overnight.
You mention being interested in the sports industry, are there any sales roles you could do there, to help the transition?
Once you have made the transition, you can then begin to look around at all the different types of work that appeal to you. Make a point of talking to those doing the work that interests you, ask them questions and see if this is what you really want to do.
By making the change in this way, you can continue to work full time to meet your committments, whilst taking your time to make your final decision.
You might need to retrain, are you prepared to do that? Or maybe it is experience you need, in which case you could look at volunteering or helping out. With regard to going part time, understand whether this is a symptom of being in a job you no longer enjoy, or a real requirement of your future working life.
If you still want to go part time, get yourself a financial advisor, who will be able to help you look at your finances, and to develop a plan that will help you achieve your goal.
Good luck!
I am 45 years old, and earn good money and have a great lifestyle and yet I no longer enjoy my job. I seem to spend my time moaning about it, which affects my home life; I want to change and yet I have financial commitments and a family to support. I would love to work part time in the sports industry and don't know what to do - I feel stuck, can you help me?
Relish says
This is a typical scenario we come across, people who have been doing a similar role for years, and feel trapped by their committments into believing they have no option. All that is required is some help to think through the options available to you and realise that changes can be made, they just may not happen overnight.
You mention being interested in the sports industry, are there any sales roles you could do there, to help the transition?
Once you have made the transition, you can then begin to look around at all the different types of work that appeal to you. Make a point of talking to those doing the work that interests you, ask them questions and see if this is what you really want to do.
By making the change in this way, you can continue to work full time to meet your committments, whilst taking your time to make your final decision.
You might need to retrain, are you prepared to do that? Or maybe it is experience you need, in which case you could look at volunteering or helping out. With regard to going part time, understand whether this is a symptom of being in a job you no longer enjoy, or a real requirement of your future working life.
If you still want to go part time, get yourself a financial advisor, who will be able to help you look at your finances, and to develop a plan that will help you achieve your goal.
Good luck!
Friday, 10 August 2007
Janice from London
Dilemma
I have a 19 year old son who lacks motivation and direction and doesn’t know what he wants to do except play golf. What can I do to help him?
Relish says:
Is he any good at golf? If so encourage him. Maybe he could find work with a golf club where he can be associated with something that interests him. We should always encourage our young people to follow their passion, particularly where sport is concerned.
Also many youngsters are not able to talk to their parents, so who would he feel comfortable talking to, and encourage that.
It is worth knowing that we all communicate in different ways and being able to understand the differences can really help your relationship with your son. Look for anyone who is trained as a Master Practitioner in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) will be able to talk about the differences and explain how you can talk more effectively.
I have a 19 year old son who lacks motivation and direction and doesn’t know what he wants to do except play golf. What can I do to help him?
Relish says:
Is he any good at golf? If so encourage him. Maybe he could find work with a golf club where he can be associated with something that interests him. We should always encourage our young people to follow their passion, particularly where sport is concerned.
Also many youngsters are not able to talk to their parents, so who would he feel comfortable talking to, and encourage that.
It is worth knowing that we all communicate in different ways and being able to understand the differences can really help your relationship with your son. Look for anyone who is trained as a Master Practitioner in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) will be able to talk about the differences and explain how you can talk more effectively.
John from Streatham
Dilemma
I have just recently turned 30 and moved to London in November and originally the idea was to start my own company when I got here.
I found a job to pay the rent and now 4 months later I have come to the realisation that I haven’t moved very far forward in what I wanted to do and found I was going to work and coming home quite tired.
I have just been given the opportunity to go and have a winter season of fun ski-ing and I wondered what I should do – should I just get on with what I planned to do, or should I go ski-ing and push back my plans?
Relish says:
Life's far too short and 30 is still very young! Whatever your business idea is, it will still be there when you get back, and opportunities like this are not going anywhere, and 4 months not long to get the idea off the ground. You could meet your future wife, business partner, someone who funds you, who knows where it might take you.
Use any spare time to plan your business – get it down on paper and write it down be, all your ideas and keep it and just keep adding to it coz at some stage you will flick back it will be that the idea will be presented to you at a time when it is more suitable. It maybe that your original idea changes.
I have just recently turned 30 and moved to London in November and originally the idea was to start my own company when I got here.
I found a job to pay the rent and now 4 months later I have come to the realisation that I haven’t moved very far forward in what I wanted to do and found I was going to work and coming home quite tired.
I have just been given the opportunity to go and have a winter season of fun ski-ing and I wondered what I should do – should I just get on with what I planned to do, or should I go ski-ing and push back my plans?
Relish says:
Life's far too short and 30 is still very young! Whatever your business idea is, it will still be there when you get back, and opportunities like this are not going anywhere, and 4 months not long to get the idea off the ground. You could meet your future wife, business partner, someone who funds you, who knows where it might take you.
Use any spare time to plan your business – get it down on paper and write it down be, all your ideas and keep it and just keep adding to it coz at some stage you will flick back it will be that the idea will be presented to you at a time when it is more suitable. It maybe that your original idea changes.
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